This is something most of us single parents struggle with after separation. The worst cases are the very nasty split ups or break up that involve children. During this period, most parents concentrate on their own feelings and unfortunately forget about their children’s feelings and experience in all this or simply neglect them.
It is very hard I admit however from the beginning, I always knew that my children’s feelings matter more than my own or their father’s. This lead me to make a decision that my family and friends still do not understand or approve of.
As a mother, I feel like the moment I decided to bring a life into this earth. All selfishness had to disappear. Anything that happens in my life should never affect my children and if it does then I have to set aside my feelings and cater for my children’s feelings first. My children never chose to come into this earth, I made that choice for them. They never chose for me and their father to split up. My ex made that choice for them.