We do face quite a lot of dilemmas as single mothers. However, we always try to keep our heads above the water as we don’t have the luxury to loose it.
One of the most challenging aspect, is keeping everything under control or the ability of juggling life.
There are so many things that I should be sharing with a partner/husband and yet in my case its become a one-person job. My children and my career take up most of my time. Therefore, the art of juggling is very crucial for me.
However, our lives should not just be about our children, as much as we love them. We would all love to have that special someone to start over with and continue to create a happy complete family. This brings me to the second dilemma we face as single mothers- dating life.
Due to juggling so much, we find ourselves with less time to dedicate to dating life. And even when we put ourselves out there, we seem to be very unfortunate to connect with men who believe that single mothers are only there to be used as toys and then dispatched so they can prepare themselves for marriage to a single woman without the attachment of children.
Third dilemma- finances. It is not easy when your salary is the main source of income and must be divided so much that you are not even left with enough to buy lip-gloss. It doesn’t help if the father of your children is not helping you financially or is contributing small amounts of money without realising that we as mothers spend three times more than they contribute and not forgetting the time we put into our children while they are out gallivanting…
Fourth dilemma- Baby daddy. For some reason most of our baby daddies seem to complicate our lives even when there is no need for it to be complicated. So many times, I just wished my ex would disappear. For me, this is one of my biggest dilemmas. My children have no idea what is going on and I have been going along with the happy family routine even though he left me for another woman. We still go on holidays or outings as a family, his parents are still a big part of my life and everything is still the same except for the part where he doesn’t live with us and he is with another woman. Now I admit this is probably holding me back from totally moving on- however I feel like my children’s happiness and well being is more important to me than my own. The sacrifices we make for our children…..
I will elaborate more on these topics in the next few blogs…stay tuned and comment below!