This is a question I have been asked multiple times.
“you are beautiful, intelligent and obviously talented, why are you single?”
“If I was your man, I would never leave a woman like you!”
“You are such a good mom, strong woman, beautiful and successful. What idiot let you go?”
I could go on and on. All these questions all summarise to the same question most keep wondering and asking- why are you single?
The weirdest thing is, I know exactly why I am single. Lol
They say your life experiences make you who you are, so true!
I have dated a cheating man for 7 years, had two beautiful daughters with him and then still watched him leave me for another woman. In the 7 years, I fought hard to keep my family together and not allow other women to break it apart but despite all my efforts, well, he still left me for what he perceived to be a better version of me.
I am currently in the process of writing an autobiography about my experience with cheating and it will be called -” Me and the side chicks”. Therefore, I wont go into too much detail about that for now.
However, during the 7 years, my belief for love and romance died in that relationship without me realising it. The drama, cheating and stress I was put through changed the confident me. It made me self doubtful and insecure. The sweet me into a sour, resentful and negative me. The list goes on. So many things that he did during the relationship changed me so much. My stubbornness got worse as I didn’t believe he deserved any respect from me. Unfortunately, these bad attributes tend to show themselves every time I try to date or start a new relationship. However, I could argue that it also made me a very strong and independent woman hence why I can face any challenge and come through sailing.
Ooh, how I hated my ex’s phone. So many times I was tempted to just throw it into the toilet and flush it down the drains. Now, I cant stand a man that loves his phone. When something keeps happening to you for years, you start to see it everywhere because to me a man on his phone is probably texting another woman. Yes people, its called paranoia and I am still learning how to deal with it. I am only human.
My experience has turned me into a woman that doesn’t trust very easily, is independant as I dont want to depend on any man and very stubborn. I am guarded when it comes to my heart and probably not the easiest person to get on with…yes, quite a lot of negatives but I am still working on them all. Hence why I am single.
I am not ready to be in a relationship, to give my heart to anyone as it is in pieces at the moment and in the process of renovation. Once that is done, then I will be ready. But for now, I will be remaining single.
So to answer your question:
Q: Why are you single
A: Simple, because I am not ready!
Hope a lot of you can relate to my experience and for those who cant. I hope you never have to go through what I have been through..
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